Guilt

I came across a very good article in one of the magazines about guilty feeling in Women..
it talks about 3 different scenarios where women live in..
Lets say woman x woman y and Woman z
x is working in a very good MNC and at a very good position.. as well
she keeps her child with a maid servant to look after the kid...
she has a about this.... cant give a good and quantity time to her kid...

Woman y is a rank holder Chartered accountant but left her career for the kid when career was at good position good state ..
She thinks to start her job again when her kid became little older and may be able to manage well on his own..
But ..the world had moved so fast that she did not know she was left back so much in terms of knowledge, concepts and may be how the corporate world is about nowadays?
she struggles to get a good career but failed..
Same...guilt ..inside her as well ..shouldnt have gave up on my career so easily.. may be i would have been able to manage both very well..

Third woman z , is a bank employee ..gave up her promotions and higher and better work opportunities
thinking she wouldnt be able to give fair enough time for her family , kids and other things..
but of course it is hard to manage.. hectic.. isnt it?
Another face of the guilt..
she thinks.. if i had chosen one of the things.. she could have given her best to that ..
now? she couldnt do anything to her best ?

May be many of us have some or the other guilt like this...
now next what?

woman x (career woman) ..what happens with her is..
whenever she gets time. ..she feels i need to give this to my family, my kid at its best
so due tot his guilt... she fulfills whatever demand her kid has..
and slowly..kid may be realizes this and start asking everything and anything..
doesnt have a good hold on the mind ...isnt it wrong?

second woman( housewife) expects a lot from her kid, for whom she gave up her career ..
kid should do well in this field in that field. etc etc
and when he/she doesnt do well? she thinks even though she sacrificed her career and gave time to kid..
she failed to make him best..something wrong in her upbringing? she takes this entirely as her mistake

why????
The author explains..
why do all the women think or expects that they are super human beings? or the should be
We are humans..and so we do tend to do mistakes..

But the main problem here is the attitude towards things..
we think that the entire responsibility is Mother's ?
If the kid does well..it is a kid's hard work intelligence ..and if the kid fails? mother's responsibility
...
Author explains ... the entire attitude is wrong..
it is both the father and mother who are responsible for whatever the kid is...

It is women who take all these responsibilities on themselves and so do the Men ..
they too start thinking may be in their subconscious mind itself..that it is wife, mother ..their responsibility..

Stop having guilt inside now..
Live your life happily... sharing all the responsibilities equally ........